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Ask vs. Demand

Dec 21, 2024

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i feel like that leads in turn to what our own contribution looks like.


i heard a news note that statistically proved a result of the left of the united states tending to believe in climate change and preservation of and a feeling of kindness toward nature. the right was found to be in opposition of those.


remember, i'm not the creator of that content and that it's a single piece of information on the subject. it's not a full detail of the topic but generally, it holds true. however, it is not and can not be definitive because from an a to z perspective, there's still all of the characters, or letters, in between. as with much of life, in between is where the detail and diversity on the subject are. a and z get the big name recognition but they are the superficial face of the subject. almost there for that reason, because to take on the subtleties and nuance requires intent attention to be able to see the degrees of specificity that describe the span of differences. it's hard for me to comprehend conforming to something that I either don't agree with or that doesn't agree with me. ideologically and physiologically.


i can break it down to basic bits to move the conversation along to say, general consumption. i liken the extremes to the difference between a polite ask and an expectant demand. be it from a friend or stranger, i know i far more appreciate an ask done nicely and politely. i know when someone baldly demands that i do something they want my help with, or cooperation with, i feel less like i am offering assistance to them and more like i'm carrying out an onerous obligation. that puts ona spin whose rotation i care for not at all. it's no surprise that is the difference between the quality of the work, and the willingness to perform the actions, as opposed to carrying out forced labor.


it's a momentous time in the world currently. it's evident to the naked eye, that there is something happening zero not only to us and the world. it's universal. the things that were in the past year, visibly becoming what was. you might say the future is unwritten, and it can also be said, that has always been the case, but the past year has been unpredictable and full of events we didn't see coming and weren't equipped for.


i know a lot of things that have come out in the lead up to the election hit like rogue waves, precipitating a panicked anxiety filled wake. things have been resolving themselves as new configurations form. some of us thrive in this type of disarray, opportunista, which, right now we can all be that. we all have the same chance to make significant change. personally and collectively he now's the time to pursue the dreams we've been afraid to bravely, so much better are the chances of their success in this moment. the first step we take on the way is the most important.


in a number of ways life offers the opportunity to heal ourselves, to accomplish a goal and level up. doing it can enact healing ourselves as well as for those around us, that are receptive and looking to be healed.


in this state of mind, i had a realization, a hit of the type that has difficulty penetrating the brain barrier. the moment of humbling self-awareness. a harshly illuminated, not entirely flattering revelation. i was suddenly granted a glimpse of my unattractive side. made more unpleasantly plain was the effect it was having on others, on a relationship partner. that's not exclusive to a romantic partnership, accounting for the, "not entirely," designation. none of our engagement with others ever seems to be any single thing. each one is a kaleidoscope of variety and densely textured. this means there's more there than meets the eye. to better understand what the eye beholds, we can benefit by shedding expectation with which you would expect it to serve as it once did, but as the past year's have shown over and over, that ain't the case.


in the case of things revealed in the harsh unforgiving light, as relates to the difficulty of seeing my own or our own flaws even more difficult to see the same view through others' eyes. it's hard or unaccustomed activity to drill down upon either of those, so bravo to those of us willing to sail those uncharted lesser traveled seas and attempting to plumb the depths. every little bit helps.


In my own case, of getting a glimpse of myself in a partnership I am unbelievable unbelievably fortunate to have found a partner willing to stay with my challenging so. They do understand it and stand by me as I work through certain lessons that have been triggered by our involvement. They are my jackpot, I tell you that and I am so grateful, how do you not love someone with that level of understanding? They're irresistible; it can't be helped and I don't want to.


When people let us down it's not the time to blame them. It's the time to ask ourselves why we need them not to so bad. What about other people being reflections of ourselves? Particularly when they trigger us. It's an illustration of what we feel needs fixing within ourselves, okay I will allow it. But I look at the people I'm triggered by, from mildly to extremely sometimes I really got to wonder WTF asterisk blank has to do with me? Are the things I see another say or do and the usually distasteful way I feel observing it, am I supposed to be seeing it? Or am I seeing it as so extreme as to yank my attention to my also doing, head so far up my back pocket that I don't see him even doing it at all. I even more oh even more to consider but I guess that's the point


Dec 21, 2024

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